10 Jul Evelyn’s Secrets: How to get a girl like me!
Hey guys! Today, I’m going to throw down some major dating secrets for all of you boys who are looking for a girlfriend and some secret insights in what we girls are looking for. Many people, I feel especially here in India, think badly of the word “dating”. I think if you ever want to meet the person of your dreams, then going out and meeting people is the only way to do so.
It’s always good to have a checklist, but in my opinion, finding the right partner isn’t really about going out there looking for a girl (or boy) based on some made-up image created in your head. Dating is about meeting great people and being the best version of yourself. “Become the person, the person you’re looking for, is looking for” is one of my favourite dating quotes and the clue to a successful relationship. I feel too many guys (and girls) these days are dating with the wrong intention and crazy expectation, so it’s pretty obvious why everyone’s complaining about not being able to find the right match or so many marriages go down the drain!
I’m no relationship guru, but of what I have learned so far from my own experience and watching my girl and guy friends I am happy to share with you the secret tips to a better dating life:
1. Reality check! Look in the mirror, not on your Instagram profile.
Nowadays we all have super distorted images of ourselves. Blame it on the filters or way too many likes on social media, but we think way too highly of ourselves and have raised our expectations for a perfect partner to insanity. We look for the perfect body, the perfect smile, the highest education, great popularity; but when we finally meet a person like this, our own flaws start to surface and we realise we don’t measure up. Look into the mirror more often. You are beautiful and unique, but you’re not perfect. I know we don’t like to hear this, but there simply is no perfect person. But you can always be the best version of yourself! Trust me, if you start to humble yourself, work on your inner being rather than your outer appearance, your priorities shift and you will attract an amazing partner into your life you would have never dared to dream of!
2. Always remember, she’s got a brother!
… and you don’t want to get your ass whooped for making a wrong move! For girls: Remember he’s got a mother, and she most likely will talk to everyone what happened between the two of you! Of course I don’t agree with forced marriages, but I’m not at all opposed to arranged dates, in fact I really like it when my friends and family set me up on a date. It gives the whole introduction a bit more seriousness and accountability, which instantly straightens up the intentions and brings love, good wishes and respect to the date – which are secret ingredients to success.
3. In it to win it!
If dating is “the game”, then marriage is winning the game! Keep your mind focused, your intentions clean. Yes, there will always be options. And in your life you will find yourself attracted to probably a hundred more great girls out there. But there is nothing more beautiful than commitment, a partner who always got your back, someone to do life with together!
I hope all of you become the best versions of yourselves this year and fall crazy in love with an amazing life partner! Send me your wedding pictures 😉 And send some great guys my way too! I’m ready to settle down and start my life with someone who will love and treasure me as long as we shall live!
Give me your dating secrets in the COMMENTS here!