Not so long ago, films, school and parents taught about the good qualities in people such as kindness, gentleness and selflessness; but in the more recent years it seems to have become the trend to justify your own selfishness and in fact encouraging it. “You deserve better than the best!”, “You can achieve anything if you want it badly enough!” and “Create your own reality!” are a few key words that have been completely misused and corrupted the true value of morals and ethics – in my humble opinion.
A few years ago I tried really hard to find a way to a happy life. From “The Secret” to reading every “10 Steps To Happiness” article I found on the internet, nothing satisfied me. I even went for a few days to an ashram in the mountains to find peace, and even though it was the most serene setting, my heart could not rest. I still felt like I had to try harder, wake up earlier, eat more consciously and I wondered why it didn’t work for me. A life coach told me at that time that I just wasn’t “ambitious enough”, meaning I didn’t want things badly enough, so the universe couldn’t send me more in return.
Is believing that if we put forth enough hard work into ourselves and our jobs really the truth to a fulfilled life? Will good things really come to us, only by us wanting them more and telling ourselves that we deserve them? I believe there is a big risk in this very behaviour making us cold, selfish and almost self-obsessed. We essentially create our own realities in a very self-centred way with the thought “I come first” at it’s centre. We’re willing to do whatever it takes to get to the top and we continue serving ourselves alone, leaving no stone unturned and not bothered to walk over dead bodies if we have to.
What has changed the world’s philosophies from being self-less, good hearted and helpful human beings to becoming self-obsessed, deadly ambitious and blind to the needs around them?
Personally, I got exhausted by these new-age philosophies telling me I need to want more and try harder. What if I don’t want anything? What if I am happy with what I already have and am grateful just for everything that is added on top? What if the best is already defined in what I have received? Here is where true peace lies for me, not in well-packaged selfishness.
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